Lip Gloss Hippy

whenrobotsreproduce:

..and really enjoys it. I don’t work because I have to make money. I work because I like working. I don’t have a lot of guilt over the fact that I work or over the fact that my daughter goes to daycare. I know my daughter is loved and well taken care of during the day, and I make the most of the…

baby-wilson:

We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of “starting a family.”

“We’re taking a survey,” she says half-joking.

“Do you think I should have a baby?”

“It will change your life,” I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.

“I know,” she says, “no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations.”

expectopatronumlumos:

I just listened to my mom because I thought ‘she’s raised 3 kids, she must know what’s she’s saying’. This is what she told me to do:
Scheduled feedings, 
Bath right before ‘feed time’
No pacifiers,
Let everyone hold him, even if I was uncomfortable, 
Just generally going against my maternal instincts. 
Once he was about 2 months old I stopped listening to her. She was upset, but I knew when he was hungry. I started feeding on demand, bathing when he was happy, and just doing what I felt he needed. I didn’t warm up to the idea of a pacifier before it was too late and he refused them though. So now he screams in the car all the time. 
New mommies, listen to your instincts!!! Just because someone has raised kids doesn’t mean they know everything. What worked for them may not work for you. I really wish someone told me that before.

As women we are often told to follow our instincts.  Then its seems like your whole life that is completely contradicted when others come along and cloud your mind.  Example trust your instincts but person xyz is safe they are family/friend.  Trust your instincts but be careful of xyz.  Trust your instincts but you should do it this way.  You see where I’m going.

When it comes to parenting I have had so many give me unsolicited advice.  I am very headstrong and I know most people mean well but could not keep from being annoyed by the constant comments and recommendations.  I wanted to follow my instincts from day one.  I figured I spent 9.5 months nurturing this child from the inside, no one knows my child better than me.  Its enough that we second guess ourselves as mothers that we shouldn’t have to fight with others on how we are doing things.  If you are open to advice or want help that is a whole other story.  I’m talking about the critiques and criticisms and ‘the you should try this’ or ‘you should do this’.  

I had to remind myself and others that I loved them, I know they meant well but this is what I’m doing, this is what my family is about, and the decisions are made are made with my husband and I following what we feel works for us whatever that may be.  As Ms Noxeema said ”Your approval is neither required or desired’.